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You have to ask yourself this question... how long should it have taken you to complete those jobs? If it should have taken you 90 hours then yes I agree that sucks. But chances are it should not have. And that is why you were let go. Taking 90 hours for a 40 hour job is not efficiency unfortunately. You need to see the errors in your ways. Did they explain what you did wrong?

 

honestly about 50-60 hours and then they give me tips to improve on what I was doing which I did one thing I hate is hours being cut back when you really need the job your at.

 

Are you saying that the work you were doing should have taken you a max of 60 hours and you took 90 hours? Am I reading that correctly?

 

When managing the labor grid, things came down to fractions of hours...we were usually within 2 hours of the grid. That's 2 hours for the whole crew for the whole week. An additional 30 hours just for one employee probably got the manager in some hot soup with their boss. :eek:

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Additionally, taking an extra 30-40 hours at $15 an hour is an additional $450-600 lost. In business, margins are everything. If you they let you continue that, you potentially cost them alone $2,000 over a 4 week span without looking into other issues a restaurant has to go through like spoilage of food, wrong orders, refunds to clients, etc. I'm not in or knowledgeable of the restaurant industry but I have studied business extensively in school and through my articling as a designated accountant. Margins are huge especially for a restaurant when so many fail early on.

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I was working on the week of Christmas a a dishwasher and they were recently teaching me prep cook this despite me not wanting that responsibility. I worked over 90 hours that week and you know what? no thank you no nothing she called me into her office and told me 'look at all these hours we'll have to fire you if you keep this up" so that's the thanks I got for working so hard for you? making sure everything was perfect, done in a efficient manner, and making sure everyone is happy?

 

As for no trading till 2017 you say it's only ten months you're underestimating how much time that actually is that's about the maximum time it takes for a human to break a habit and I'm pretty sure I can do that to as I've said no to trade offers recently. I have no intention of staying on welfare that long. For skills I was thinking a welder or something tech based.

 

:censored: They were going to TEACH you a real skill (cook) and you REFUSED? I'd REALLY like to hear the employer's side. You have an excuse for EVERYTHING. Every employer has it out for you eh? I call total BS. At first, I was sympathetic to your plight but man, that ship has sailed.

 

Since we'll never hear from the employer, I'll take a stab at it as someone who has experience managing a restaurant and teaching both front of house and back of house staff.

 

I'm betting that for any number of reasons, someone decided that Gabriel should learn a new skill on top of washing dishes. Prep work is an exclusively back of house skill and it would be easy for Gabe to do both. Gabe likely had to learn these new skills while still completing all his responsibilities as a dishwasher.

 

I'm also guessing (based on his use of the words "efficient" and "perfect") that it took him a long time to finish the prep work he was assigned. It took him additional time beyond his normal clock-out time to finish all his other responsibilities.

 

The manager, who must always keep an eye on the labor grid, saw these extra hours and discussed them with Gabe (whether they did it in an effective manner is another story). Gabe was frustrated at the lack of appreciation for all the hours of work, the manager only saw the hours and didn't understand what the extra time was for. Beyond that, it's tough to tell based on current info how everything played out.

 

Wall-Crawler is right, Gabe...trying to shrug additional responsibilities definitely sounds like you're not interested in keeping a job for long. When I managed restaurants, I was constantly cross-training people which helped me out from a scheduling standpoint and ultimately made the employee more marketable when they decided to move on or even better, when we promoted them (which happened way more often). The successful ones were the ones that not only embraced the extra responsibility, but also sought it out. They asked me if they could learn new skills. The ones that wanted to show up and just do the bare minimum usually saw reduced hours on the schedule and ultimately found employment elsewhere.

 

You should be seeking responsibility, not shrugging it off. :sumo:

 

I did learn to do those things and at first it was rocky but over time I got better at it. I don't shrugs off responsibility I don't like doing it before I feel ready myself that I can handle it as basically what that jobs was eventually was becoming the cook and all the frustration isn't worth a extra dollar or two. I put a high value on stress since I want to reduce it as much as possible I have more then enough and I don't want more. When I feel ready for more responsibility I'll ask other then that I'm content to just dishwashing. I've tried before to take initiative and you know what? The could give a rat's they honestly don't care so why should I help them out just to appease them and make them look good for their boss and take credit?

 

I'm a person that doesn't forgive easily I took initiative and got a slap in the face. I don't expect to be patted on the back for every single that I do don't treat me like I'm not worth anyone's time is what I'm saying. I'm a doormat for people but when I stand up for myself it's "oh why are you acting like this?". BS is what it is because now that you see I won't bend to your will you have a problem with it. Yes I'm willing to take on responsibility but don't shove it down my throat and treat me like I'm disposable. Sure you can find someone but it takes money to train them like others said. Sure it's a min wage job and I'll probably get a 'suck it up or something" but that's the way I am there's only so much I can handle before lashing out. I have lots of growing up to do but "sucking it up" I have a limit to. I'm not stupid when I'm alone I'll have to deal with more but I'll still have limit. I've said this before as well I'm not sure what kind of job I want I've asked my case worker to help me out and she said she will so I'll see. I'm being aimless right now since I don't know what to work towards.

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Gabe,

 

Do you have a rough estimate of what your remaining books left to sell are worth? If they add up to say $2,500 by your prices and $2,000 by GPA, would you consider "wholesaling" them to someone on here at a price that everyone thinks is fair? Meaning a price where the buyer can put them up for auction and end up getting their money back pretty quickly. So under that scenario, you might end up selling your $2,000 (or whatever the number is) worth of books at 25% off, but you end up with $1500 cash to put to better use than tying it up in overpriced inventory.

 

Instead of looking at it as losing $500 (or $1000), you could look at that $500-1000 "loss" as allowing you to SAVE the MANY hours you are going to spend trying to sell your books at full (or above) market value prices over the coming months. And like everyone has been saying, that time could be spent trying to find a job, rather than distracting yourself constantly with a hobby like dealing comics.

 

I already know you're going to say no, because others have suggested before that you lower your eBay prices to more realistic asking prices, and your response has always been that you are waiting for the values of the books to rise and that you don't want to take a loss on the books you have left. But you should at least think about reconsidering, because you can tell that all of the people who have been trying to help you out over the past however many months are clearly beginning to become frustrated, as any good advice that you're given seems to go in one ear and out the other.

 

I have calculated how much I have left to sell and I have lowered the prices on my comics except for three of them which aren't mine. So if I'm understanding this you want me to sell for a loss and use that money to focus on a job? You may think I'm not listening I do read what you guys say but taking loss after loss I just can't bring myself to do it again. I know you're going to say it's business and that's true but it's doesn't make it hurt any less. It's made me learn things like I'm overpaying for one, need to learn more about fmv, trades, and yes even losses. I know it's been mentioned the future value of money with such a big loss that might happen you think it still applies?

 

I do think the OP reads what people say, and that he genuinely tries to listen and learn. But I also believe that he has some disabilities related to the way he learns and absorbs information, along with some other physical and memory issues that he described earlier, which may be related to or cause a difficulty in separating his emotions from what would hopefully be professional interactions. That doesn't alleviate any of the responsibility, but it may help explain what many of us are seeing as somewhat 'questionable' behavior with regards to work and/or comics, and/or acceptance of seemingly sound and oftentimes 'obvious' advice.

 

With that being said, I propose something different entirely: Keep the comics you have, as its taking a lot of mental and emotional resources to attempt to sell them, and your 'profits' will likely leave you unsatisfied and in a worse emotional state. Wrap them up in a box, put a bow on them, and don't open that box til Christmas (or later). In the mean time, leave the boards. This thread isn't really about comics any more, and most of us are not social workers or employment specialists or therapists, or Canadians (generally), and being overwhelmed with this thread at this point is probably not helping very much any more (if it ever did). If there are a few people who you have gone the extra mile to help you, maybe keep in contact with them.

 

With your time, EVERYTHING you do should be focused on finding a job AND improving yourself. Set up a detailed daily schedule for job hunting, fun, relaxing, shopping, chores, family, sleeping, reading, volunteer work, working out, and self improvement. When you're not looking for a job, you should be at the library reading about something that makes you better, or on youtube doing self-training videos. If you absolutely can't do without comics, go to the library and read graphic novels. Limit your tv and movies to like 2 hrs per week. Also set a weekly budget for food, gas, household stuff, transportation, etc. This won't be easy for you. It will be harder for you than it is for most people, and it already has been. But you can do it.

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Additionally, taking an extra 30-40 hours at $15 an hour is an additional $450-600 lost. In business, margins are everything. If you they let you continue that, you potentially cost them alone $2,000 over a 4 week span without looking into other issues a restaurant has to go through like spoilage of food, wrong orders, refunds to clients, etc. I'm not in or knowledgeable of the restaurant industry but I have studied business extensively in school and through my articling as a designated accountant. Margins are huge especially for a restaurant when so many fail early on.

 

To simplify things this is what my usual paycheque is $1000 dollars and after working the 90 hours got $1500 total.

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I was working on the week of Christmas a a dishwasher and they were recently teaching me prep cook this despite me not wanting that responsibility. I worked over 90 hours that week and you know what? no thank you no nothing she called me into her office and told me 'look at all these hours we'll have to fire you if you keep this up" so that's the thanks I got for working so hard for you? making sure everything was perfect, done in a efficient manner, and making sure everyone is happy?

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They gave you a job and they paid you. YOUR response should be "Thank You".

 

See, this is the attitude everyone here is talking about - were you really expecting your employer to thank you for doing your job?

 

You got paid - THERE'S your "thank you".

 

90 hours a week certainly is hard work. But welcome to the real world - lots of people have 2-3 jobs and especially around Christmas many businesses get swamped and need LOTS of good help. Work your *** off for a few months or year or so and you will be rewarded.

 

Make excuses when they need you the most, and you'll be shown the door.

 

 

This thread is no longer about comics or about your desire to become a dealer/seller.

 

This is about MANY folks here trying to teach you life lessons that you are reluctant to learn and seem to do your best to avoid.

 

It's not rocket-science. Hard work is... hard.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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You have to ask yourself this question... how long should it have taken you to complete those jobs? If it should have taken you 90 hours then yes I agree that sucks. But chances are it should not have. And that is why you were let go. Taking 90 hours for a 40 hour job is not efficiency unfortunately. You need to see the errors in your ways. Did they explain what you did wrong?

 

honestly about 50-60 hours and then they give me tips to improve on what I was doing which I did one thing I hate is hours being cut back when you really need the job your at.

 

Are you saying that the work you were doing should have taken you a max of 60 hours and you took 90 hours? Am I reading that correctly?

 

When managing the labor grid, things came down to fractions of hours...we were usually within 2 hours of the grid. That's 2 hours for the whole crew for the whole week. An additional 30 hours just for one employee probably got the manager in some hot soup with their boss. :eek:

 

Now that you put it that way I see what you mean I took up lots of time but I did eventually get it right and my hours went down to 28 hours a week.

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I do think the OP reads what people say, and that he genuinely tries to listen and learn. But I also believe that he has some disabilities related to the way he learns and absorbs information, along with some other physical and memory issues that he described earlier, which may be related to or cause a difficulty in separating his emotions from what would hopefully be professional interactions. That doesn't alleviate any of the responsibility, but it may help explain what many of us are seeing as somewhat 'questionable' behavior with regards to work and/or comics, and/or acceptance of seemingly sound and oftentimes 'obvious' advice.

 

With that being said, I propose something different entirely: Keep the comics you have, as its taking a lot of mental and emotional resources to attempt to sell them, and your 'profits' will likely leave you unsatisfied and in a worse emotional state. Wrap them up in a box, put a bow on them, and don't open that box til Christmas (or later). In the mean time, leave the boards. This thread isn't really about comics any more, and most of us are not social workers or employment specialists or therapists, or Canadians (generally), and being overwhelmed with this thread at this point is probably not helping very much any more (if it ever did). If there are a few people who you have gone the extra mile to help you, maybe keep in contact with them.

 

With your time, EVERYTHING you do should be focused on finding a job AND improving yourself. Set up a detailed daily schedule for job hunting, fun, relaxing, shopping, chores, family, sleeping, reading, volunteer work, working out, and self improvement. When you're not looking for a job, you should be at the library reading about something that makes you better, or on youtube doing self-training videos. If you absolutely can't do without comics, go to the library and read graphic novels. Limit your tv and movies to like 2 hrs per week. Also set a weekly budget for food, gas, household stuff, transportation, etc. This won't be easy for you. It will be harder for you than it is for most people, and it already has been. But you can do it.

 

 

AMEN!

 

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I was working on the week of Christmas a a dishwasher and they were recently teaching me prep cook this despite me not wanting that responsibility. I worked over 90 hours that week and you know what? no thank you no nothing she called me into her office and told me 'look at all these hours we'll have to fire you if you keep this up" so that's the thanks I got for working so hard for you? making sure everything was perfect, done in a efficient manner, and making sure everyone is happy?

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They gave you a job and they paid you. YOUR response should be "Thank You".

 

See, this is the attitude everyone here is talking about - were you really expecting your employer to thank you for doing your job?

 

You got paid - THERE'S your "thank you".

 

90 hours a week certainly is hard work. But welcome to the real world - lots of people have 2-3 jobs and especially around Christmas many businesses get swamped and need LOTS of good help. Work your *** off for a few months or year or so and you will be rewarded.

 

Make excuses when they need you the most, and you'll be shown the door.

 

 

This thread is no longer about comics or about your desire to become a dealer/seller.

 

This is about MANY folks here trying to teach you life lessons that you are reluctant to learn and seem to do your best to avoid.

 

It's not rocket-science. Hard work is... hard.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I knew this response was coming and yes I appreciate that they gave me a job but the least they could have done is train me how to do it right. The managers don't see anything till they see the numbers only then do they do something about it. I know hard work is hard and that I'll have to work my off but I've seen how they treat people you walk on eggshells all the time. I've done hard work before when I was working with my dad and the lifting in the grocery store I did and things needed to be done quickly.

 

Maybe I need to explain why I do the things I do.

 

I'm not as smart as you guys, I'm overshadowed by my successful parents, people treat me like I'm not worth their time and think I insult them by not listening to what they say. There are things I don't do which is true because I never was good at anything and comics is something is at least something I'm half decent in. I don't fully understand what my learning disability is but lower than average cognitive thinking is one thing that was mentioned a lot.

 

My memory is faulty, I'm the black sheep in the family that my parents are embarrassed to talk about and they refuse to believe my they just think I'm last I've showed the report. I honestly hate it people don't understand what I'm going through so they just think I'm lazy because for them it's easier to be ignorant of what I'm actually dealing with.

 

I would give anything to get rid of this people made fun of me my whole life and bully me my whole life beating me up because I was smaller, weaker and not smart. I'm not asking for pity just a understanding of what I'm going through I know people will say "life's not fair" I know this more then most people. I hate the fact that I have a learning disability and it frustrates me that they are smarter then I am and they take it for granted if I was like them I'do something about it rather then abusing it. Maybe it's because I know what it's like and for those that say no emotion I can't I honestly just can't. I have anger and frustration always surrounding me. I feel like when I don't have common sense of do simple things without messing up. The best advice I could receive without and exaggeration is this learning disability can be reversed nothing would make me happier.

 

To those that want to leave this thread I won't fault you at all and you can do as you wish as it's frustrating for you to read this.

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Gabe, you need to get that chip off of your shoulder man. If this is your attitude (a combination of self-pity and thinking that employers owe you something) I weep for the future. Best advice I ever received was from a partner who said when a client or another partner asks if you can do something (meaning do you have the time or capability) - the answer is always YES. Then go figure out how.

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Just curious about how much of your day is devoted to playing video games?

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Just curious about how much of your day is devoted to playing video games?

 

Facebook/MLP quizzes

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I was working on the week of Christmas a a dishwasher and they were recently teaching me prep cook this despite me not wanting that responsibility. I worked over 90 hours that week and you know what? no thank you no nothing she called me into her office and told me 'look at all these hours we'll have to fire you if you keep this up" so that's the thanks I got for working so hard for you? making sure everything was perfect, done in a efficient manner, and making sure everyone is happy?

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They gave you a job and they paid you. YOUR response should be "Thank You".

 

See, this is the attitude everyone here is talking about - were you really expecting your employer to thank you for doing your job?

 

You got paid - THERE'S your "thank you".

 

90 hours a week certainly is hard work. But welcome to the real world - lots of people have 2-3 jobs and especially around Christmas many businesses get swamped and need LOTS of good help. Work your *** off for a few months or year or so and you will be rewarded.

 

Make excuses when they need you the most, and you'll be shown the door.

 

 

This thread is no longer about comics or about your desire to become a dealer/seller.

 

This is about MANY folks here trying to teach you life lessons that you are reluctant to learn and seem to do your best to avoid.

 

It's not rocket-science. Hard work is... hard.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I knew this response was coming and yes I appreciate that they gave me a job but the least they could have done is train me how to do it right. The managers don't see anything till they see the numbers only then do they do something about it. I know hard work is hard and that I'll have to work my off but I've seen how they treat people you walk on eggshells all the time. I've done hard work before when I was working with my dad and the lifting in the grocery store I did and things needed to be done quickly.

 

Maybe I need to explain why I do the things I do.

 

I'm not as smart as you guys, I'm overshadowed by my successful parents, people treat me like I'm not worth their time and think I insult them by not listening to what they say. There are things I don't do which is true because I never was good at anything and comics is something is at least something I'm half decent in. I don't fully understand what my learning disability is but lower than average cognitive thinking is one thing that was mentioned a lot.

 

My memory is faulty, I'm the black sheep in the family that my parents are embarrassed to talk about and they refuse to believe my they just think I'm last I've showed the report. I honestly hate it people don't understand what I'm going through so they just think I'm lazy because for them it's easier to be ignorant of what I'm actually dealing with.

 

I would give anything to get rid of this people made fun of me my whole life and bully me my whole life beating me up because I was smaller, weaker and not smart. I'm not asking for pity just a understanding of what I'm going through I know people will say "life's not fair" I know this more then most people. I hate the fact that I have a learning disability and it frustrates me that they are smarter then I am and they take it for granted if I was like them I'do something about it rather then abusing it. Maybe it's because I know what it's like and for those that say no emotion I can't I honestly just can't. I have anger and frustration always surrounding me. I feel like when I don't have common sense of do simple things without messing up. The best advice I could receive without and exaggeration is this learning disability can be reversed nothing would make me happier.

 

To those that want to leave this thread I won't fault you at all and you can do as you wish as it's frustrating for you to read this.

 

Believe me friend, things will get better for you and most of it is in your hands. Everything you need is in you like a seed. Patience.

 

I'm not trying to pity you, just trying to help point you in a better direction and let your own energy and effort will get you going, but it will be at your pace. Doesn't have to be as fast and great as anyone else, just do your best and don't stop. You may not be seeing what others are picking up easier, but that doesn't mean you stop looking. There's more to you than even you know, and you'll find it, over time.

 

But whatever you do is yours, own it.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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My suggestions would be to take advantage of the time that you have (while receiving financial assistance from the government) and get yourself into a better place mentally. Your psychological and emotional well-being are going to be very important for you to have any chance of going forward in life.

 

Look into programs (and by look into I mean ASK FOR HELP) that are beneficial to people like yourself. From reading this thread, you could benefit from some counseling (to help with self-awareness and coming to terms with many of the things that have implanted themselves in your head when it comes to your self-worth), some anger management (to help deal with stressful/uncomfortable situations), and maybe a psychologist to help you to learn how the depression that you are obviously suffering from is a brick wall in front of all the things you hope to accomplish.

 

Personal hygiene (shower and grooming) should also never be overlooked... and not simply for the benefit of others. It's one of the easiest ways to make yourself feel better, even if it's just for a moment, and you can do this on a daily basis. Sometimes, all it takes is a momentary good feeling to really kickstart your day.

 

Also, if your not exercising and at least trying to eat healthy, you really should. An extra few steps or a stretch you're not used to, can be extremely beneficial to your physical and emotional well-being.

 

Baby steps, Gabe. This is not going to happen overnight.

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I was working on the week of Christmas a a dishwasher and they were recently teaching me prep cook this despite me not wanting that responsibility. I worked over 90 hours that week and you know what? no thank you no nothing she called me into her office and told me 'look at all these hours we'll have to fire you if you keep this up" so that's the thanks I got for working so hard for you? making sure everything was perfect, done in a efficient manner, and making sure everyone is happy?

 

As for no trading till 2017 you say it's only ten months you're underestimating how much time that actually is that's about the maximum time it takes for a human to break a habit and I'm pretty sure I can do that to as I've said no to trade offers recently. I have no intention of staying on welfare that long. For skills I was thinking a welder or something tech based.

 

:censored: They were going to TEACH you a real skill (cook) and you REFUSED? I'd REALLY like to hear the employer's side. You have an excuse for EVERYTHING. Every employer has it out for you eh? I call total BS. At first, I was sympathetic to your plight but man, that ship has sailed.

 

Since we'll never hear from the employer, I'll take a stab at it as someone who has experience managing a restaurant and teaching both front of house and back of house staff.

 

I'm betting that for any number of reasons, someone decided that Gabriel should learn a new skill on top of washing dishes. Prep work is an exclusively back of house skill and it would be easy for Gabe to do both. Gabe likely had to learn these new skills while still completing all his responsibilities as a dishwasher.

 

I'm also guessing (based on his use of the words "efficient" and "perfect") that it took him a long time to finish the prep work he was assigned. It took him additional time beyond his normal clock-out time to finish all his other responsibilities.

 

The manager, who must always keep an eye on the labor grid, saw these extra hours and discussed them with Gabe (whether they did it in an effective manner is another story). Gabe was frustrated at the lack of appreciation for all the hours of work, the manager only saw the hours and didn't understand what the extra time was for. Beyond that, it's tough to tell based on current info how everything played out.

 

Wall-Crawler is right, Gabe...trying to shrug additional responsibilities definitely sounds like you're not interested in keeping a job for long. When I managed restaurants, I was constantly cross-training people which helped me out from a scheduling standpoint and ultimately made the employee more marketable when they decided to move on or even better, when we promoted them (which happened way more often). The successful ones were the ones that not only embraced the extra responsibility, but also sought it out. They asked me if they could learn new skills. The ones that wanted to show up and just do the bare minimum usually saw reduced hours on the schedule and ultimately found employment elsewhere.

 

You should be seeking responsibility, not shrugging it off. :sumo:

 

 

I did learn to do those things and at first it was rocky but over time I got better at it. I don't shrugs off responsibility I don't like doing it before I feel ready myself that I can handle it as basically what that jobs was eventually was becoming the cook and all the frustration isn't worth a extra dollar or two. I put a high value on stress since I want to reduce it as much as possible I have more then enough and I don't want more. When I feel ready for more responsibility I'll ask other then that I'm content to just dishwashing. I've tried before to take initiative and you know what? The could give a rat's they honestly don't care so why should I help them out just to appease them and make them look good for their boss and take credit?

 

I'm a person that doesn't forgive easily I took initiative and got a slap in the face. I don't expect to be patted on the back for every single that I do don't treat me like I'm not worth anyone's time is what I'm saying. I'm a doormat for people but when I stand up for myself it's "oh why are you acting like this?". BS is what it is because now that you see I won't bend to your will you have a problem with it. Yes I'm willing to take on responsibility but don't shove it down my throat and treat me like I'm disposable. Sure you can find someone but it takes money to train them like others said. Sure it's a min wage job and I'll probably get a 'suck it up or something" but that's the way I am there's only so much I can handle before lashing out. I have lots of growing up to do but "sucking it up" I have a limit to. I'm not stupid when I'm alone I'll have to deal with more but I'll still have limit. I've said this before as well I'm not sure what kind of job I want I've asked my case worker to help me out and she said she will so I'll see. I'm being aimless right now since I don't know what to work towards.

 

I hope you improve yourself to the point where you look back on this post in a few years and get a little embarrassed that you posted it. I'm not looking to bash you...but I honestly believe that you believe you acted properly but those of us looking in can tell you without a doubt that you are different.

 

Please keep the following things in mind when working an entry-level, menial job (this isn't about your life, just your position with a company):

 

You ARE replaceable

You WILL get frustrated

You WILL NOT like everyone you work with

You WILL NOT always get adequate appreciation for your work

You SHOULD NEVER "lash out". EVER!

 

These are all things you need to teach yourself to deal with. When it comes to "sucking it up", you should have no limit. Do every job with a smile on your face and leap at the chance to handle more responsibility.

 

Here's a concept for you...more responsibility means more freedom. Think about it. When you were a child, you had no responsibility, but you have no freedom either. You had to do whatever your parents wanted. As you grow up, your parents give you a little more freedom, but with that comes more responsibility. They give you a phone, but you're responsible for it. They let you go out, but you're responsible for getting home on time...etc. This concept extends to adulthood. More responsibility leads to more career opportunities which typically leads to more money which typically leads to more freedom.

 

You want to be free from welfare? You want to be free from your parents and move out? You want to be free to go to any comic shop/show you want? Go after more responsibility. That means keep your nose to the grindstone and let a solid day's work and a paycheck be its own reward.

 

And for the love of everything, don't take any more stands at work and don't lash out.

 

 

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Gabe, you need to get that chip off of your shoulder man. If this is your attitude (a combination of self-pity and thinking that employers owe you something) I weep for the future. Best advice I ever received was from a partner who said when a client or another partner asks if you can do something (meaning do you have the time or capability) - the answer is always YES. Then go figure out how.

 

I don't understand so if I have the capability or time to do it I say yes?

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Just curious about how much of your day is devoted to playing video games?

 

I don't play video games anymore I used to.

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Just curious about how much of your day is devoted to playing video games?

 

Facebook/MLP quizzes

 

About 2-3 hours.

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:facepalm:

Read the last sentence.

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I was working on the week of Christmas a a dishwasher and they were recently teaching me prep cook this despite me not wanting that responsibility. I worked over 90 hours that week and you know what? no thank you no nothing she called me into her office and told me 'look at all these hours we'll have to fire you if you keep this up" so that's the thanks I got for working so hard for you? making sure everything was perfect, done in a efficient manner, and making sure everyone is happy?

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They gave you a job and they paid you. YOUR response should be "Thank You".

 

See, this is the attitude everyone here is talking about - were you really expecting your employer to thank you for doing your job?

 

You got paid - THERE'S your "thank you".

 

90 hours a week certainly is hard work. But welcome to the real world - lots of people have 2-3 jobs and especially around Christmas many businesses get swamped and need LOTS of good help. Work your *** off for a few months or year or so and you will be rewarded.

 

Make excuses when they need you the most, and you'll be shown the door.

 

 

This thread is no longer about comics or about your desire to become a dealer/seller.

 

This is about MANY folks here trying to teach you life lessons that you are reluctant to learn and seem to do your best to avoid.

 

It's not rocket-science. Hard work is... hard.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I knew this response was coming and yes I appreciate that they gave me a job but the least they could have done is train me how to do it right. The managers don't see anything till they see the numbers only then do they do something about it. I know hard work is hard and that I'll have to work my off but I've seen how they treat people you walk on eggshells all the time. I've done hard work before when I was working with my dad and the lifting in the grocery store I did and things needed to be done quickly.

 

Maybe I need to explain why I do the things I do.

 

I'm not as smart as you guys, I'm overshadowed by my successful parents, people treat me like I'm not worth their time and think I insult them by not listening to what they say. There are things I don't do which is true because I never was good at anything and comics is something is at least something I'm half decent in. I don't fully understand what my learning disability is but lower than average cognitive thinking is one thing that was mentioned a lot.

 

My memory is faulty, I'm the black sheep in the family that my parents are embarrassed to talk about and they refuse to believe my they just think I'm last I've showed the report. I honestly hate it people don't understand what I'm going through so they just think I'm lazy because for them it's easier to be ignorant of what I'm actually dealing with.

 

I would give anything to get rid of this people made fun of me my whole life and bully me my whole life beating me up because I was smaller, weaker and not smart. I'm not asking for pity just a understanding of what I'm going through I know people will say "life's not fair" I know this more then most people. I hate the fact that I have a learning disability and it frustrates me that they are smarter then I am and they take it for granted if I was like them I'do something about it rather then abusing it. Maybe it's because I know what it's like and for those that say no emotion I can't I honestly just can't. I have anger and frustration always surrounding me. I feel like when I don't have common sense of do simple things without messing up. The best advice I could receive without and exaggeration is this learning disability can be reversed nothing would make me happier.

 

To those that want to leave this thread I won't fault you at all and you can do as you wish as it's frustrating for you to read this.

 

Believe me friend, things will get better for you and most of it is in your hands. Everything you need is in you like a seed. Patience.

 

I'm not trying to pity you, just trying to help point you in a better direction and let your own energy and effort will get you going, but it will be at your pace. Doesn't have to be as fast and great as anyone else, just do your best and don't stop. You may not be seeing what others are picking up easier, but that doesn't mean you stop looking. There's more to you than even you know, and you'll find it, over time.

 

But whatever you do is yours, own it.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I have so much to work on with myself and being with a learning disability and assistance I should be able to find some programs it's just hard seeing my friends becoming somebody's making lots of money and being independent but I will do my best.

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